All actions are attempts to meet needs

Another pillar the practice of NVC is founded upon is the belief that our desire to satisfy human needs, whether conscious or unconscious, underlies every action we take.  This assumption places justice, equity and compassion at the center of all our strategies, recognizing that a shared humanness drives all behavior, especially behavior that is otherwise baffling and tragic.  We call behaviors ‘tragic’ because this assumption includes the understanding that humans only resort to violence, or actions that do not seemingly satisfy our own or others’ needs, when we are unable to recognize more effective strategies for satisfying more needs.  The practitioner of nonviolent communication attunes their senses to see the human needs that motivate their choices, and the choices of others, and are consequently left with greater room to connect and create mutual understanding with people we would otherwise judge or alienate.